hip hop inspired entry…

“i want a real love, dark skinned and Aunt Viv love.
That Jada and that Will love”- j cole

made me start to think. what do you want? then it hit me..

that kind of love

have you ever thought of all the happy moments of romance that you’ve shared with others? like damn that shit made my cold heart warm. it be so small yet intimate & sweet. sometimes it’s the small things. maybe.

you know the smile you have when they grab your favorite snacks from the store. when they know you’re order when you go certain places. someone who shares their food even though you said that you weren’t hungry. i know so annoying.

that person who will wash your hair after a long day. leave a toothbrush at the crib kind of love. laughing nonstop because the jokes gone fly kind of vibe. let me wear your clothes comfort. i share me with you exchange.

wash your back in the shower intimacy. kiss your back while playing in your hair. heavy breathing in your ear while kissing on your neck. kiss your body. everywhere. licking & tasting. you know the hot & steamy. i desire you all the time type love.

allowing you to have your space. allowing you to express who you are openly & freely. the kind of love that understands a conversation does not have to become an argument. the i can apologize when i’ve hurt you kind of love. the kind of love that you can trust. the kind that doesn’t make you wonder or worry. the kind love that is in touch with self & reality. the kind love that is safe. fun.

the kind that is a twin flame. not a savior. but appreciates the opportunity to simply journey with you. the kind that welcomes in love. allows it to happen & returns it.

love big. love loud. love honestly. love in a manner that feeds your spirit.

-deja💙

journal entry 5/18…

i feel like i’m dying…

today.. well most of the week, but especially today i took some well needed time & honesty to reflect. once i made it to the destination. i made the discovery. i feel like i’m dying. do not be alarm nor worry. just follow me as i explain.

i had been dancing with my mind. the stories it tells me. the reality of something’s. allowing logic to be an excuse because i can relate more than forcing the confrontation of holding someone accountable so that they maybe able to reflect on your actions. allowing myself to be what everyone needed. but i can’t figure out what i need from me.

then i think. how do they see me? who am i? some see me in the best light. thank y’all who see me in that manner. especially those who do so accepting flaws & all. for others not too bad not too joyous. then there are those who just put the label on you as bad/toxic & move on. i wonder why that matters to us, well to me. as much as one can say that it doesn’t. it does. especially when it’s coming from someone we value & love.

from there thought more about my actions. am i living how i want? or have i become consumed by society norms & others value systems & morals? am i doing this so no one will have nothing to say? to keep my body count down? (haha). am i doing it to impress or really express myself? like what is it…

the more i thought. i sadder i became. because i felt so guilty for being myself. as much as i think i communicate myself honestly & effectively. don’t forget the more optimistic side of the road kinda girl. but i have flaws. i avoid certain conversations to avoid confrontation. i hate the energy of how something simple becomes so big & can’t even be discussed because too much ego & pride. not enough honesty, communication, & accountability.

i am quick to say fuck it. or this won’t/work or last. but truly somethings i want that for. but you become accustomed to what you know, accept, & settle for. i wanted to be so empty & cold you could get frostbite from being near me. but honestly my love, concern, & care runs deep & is real. especially when it comes to those i love. i can be clingy but i understand space is needed & desired. i care to know who you really are. love to communicate all day with you if i can. i want to trust & feel safe with those who i invite into my life. i hate that people take advantage of that side because they won’t take the time to see me. they only see me how they want me to be for them.

it’s hard to forgive yourself for what you didn’t know. feels even worse when you knew but you allowed yourself to believe things for your own selfish gain. it’s a process but an exhausting one but process nonetheless.

it feels like i’m dying because i don’t feel how i once felt. i’m only doing things to impress myself. i going to be me. live. out loud. in color. because i choose to do so. if you can journey with me as i take another journey with myself, i truly welcome the real love & acceptance. by all means share it with me. if it’s a bit much, it’s okay no pressure. but the old me has to die. so i can become the better woman that i desire to be ☺️

just getting out these quarantine thoughts while healing some wounds. hopefully it’s inspiring or entertaining. may peace & love be with you 💙

deja

four.twenty.thoughts…

as i sit next to him…

i wonder who is he. how did we get here?

look at those eyes. look at that smile…

fuck i’m a sucker for it.

damn. how did we get here?

i wonder who is he texting?

who else is he sexing?

is it me like he say or is it all a facade created to cater to my ego & to his favor?

when we lay, am i really where you want to be?

we have fun together.

we laugh together.

we’ve share moments together.

but what does any of that mean?

are we simply enjoying each other’s time in the moment?

are we working toward a forever type ending?

where do we stand?

how does it end?

sometimes i wonder, is it worth it?

yes i am happy.

this thing makes me smile.

but also boils my blood & makes me cry.

i wonder if he ever wonders what i’m doing?

what i’m thinking.

how i feel?

if my needs for certain levels of affection drive me outside of us.

as i sit.

i appreciate life as it is.

-deja

hey. here i go…

where have i been…

it’s been a minute so let me see if i still got it…

in truth, i been living life. it’s a lot that has been happening & i been making my way through it as best as i can. i can say that this time of life in the last few months has shown me that just when i think that i have mastered something it is taught to me at another level that requires me to be better than i was before. to rise above my ego even more. like oh brother here we go…

i have to take responsibility & say that i have made this commitment to myself. better myself daily. approach life in a manner that allows you to embrace the harsh cold reality but to still find the beauty & peace within.

with all that comes vulnerability. when i say it is so terrifying yet rewarding in its own beautiful ways. if you’re anything like me, confrontation isn’t my thing because i always am attempting to mindful of how i speak. because i am aware that words mean things. so i attempt to mean what i say. sometimes i fail, but it provides me a lesson & strength going forward. so when i confront anything or address it i have to expose my “crazy”. my insecurities. my past. my shame.

trust me love, it is ass in every way. most times i am met with disregard. excuses. disrespect. aggression. avoidance.

talk about shit. like here i go, exposing who i am to be met with that… truthfully avoiding it & letting it go is instant response. just to avoid the confrontation. even more so to avoid showing my emotions. my feelings. the fact that i really cared. & to be met like that. shit feels like a different level of hurt.

but i have learned that the response to avoid it does not teach me or better me anyway. not saying that things have to be worked out or reconciled but gaining an understanding of what actually happened & going forward how to approach or discontinue the kinship is always helpful. it is not at all necessary. sometimes it won’t be available to you. at times you have to make peace within & continue to be a better you.

it has been a struggle. i have never craved sleep so much in my life honey!! but as life turns & continues, daily finding balance & peace. tinkering with ideas but remaining as honest & transparent with myself. when i do it with self it transcends in all relationships i have. which is beautiful & a blessing to me. hopefully it inspires or sparks something within those i encounter.

so that’s where i been. hopefully all who have taken the time to read this are blessed in all aspects of life & you continue to grow as the beautiful energies you are.

peace. love. joy. blessings. happiness.

-deja 💙

hopefully this finds you well…

..how do i begin this… to be honest i’m in a state of shock & appreciation. & it feels really amazing. with the decade & year closing out, so much internal self auditing has been occurring within myself just to see where i am & how i feel.
i have learned a lot about myself & it’s beautiful in its own way. knowing that leads me in a direction of creating & maintaining relationships that allow my unique beauty to be admired, possibly inspired. but not judged.
learning & practicing to be vulnerable & honest. separating my ego from what is reality. understanding that if truth is to be obtained, be prepared. because it comes unfiltered. & that’s okay. processing feelings & emotions from the inner child. learning that forgiveness, acceptance, & moving on is more freeing than one will know.
it’s been a lot. shit. grab the drinks & cannabis & celebrate to overcoming all placed before us. i’m so happy & proud of how far not only myself but those who surround me have come. knowing that we support one another & value the friendships we’ve made is so refreshing. to know that you have a tribe that supports you warms the heart.
so love openly, freely, & happily. express it in the manners that work for you two. live for you. not the opinions or suggestions of others. live for your happiness. be considerate of those you love & who love you in return. self love is key. learn to enjoy your own company.
define what is love in your own terms. share those words when you find yourself feeling them with whomever. appreciate peace & learn that most things that interfere with it are not worth the hassle.
so hopefully this finds you well & it gives you something…
much love
many blessings
deja

8am

if we being honest…

i miss the person i fell in love with. i miss how we use to talk & text throughout the day. i miss just being around you for the peace & laughter. i felt safe with you. i felt good with you which was a rarity for me.

i thought honesty is where we stood. i kept nothing from you. i thought that was a gift that was reciprocated. i thought that in sharing our truths we were creating a foundation. the time we spent together was like no time i’ve spent with a person before.

the goofy flirting. the passion & desire to have one another. falling asleep in your arms. i even remember how warm my heart felt. you telling me how you would watch me sleep. waking up hot because you were breathing up against the back of my neck.

days felt warmer. air felt cleaner. long as you were here on the voyage with me. it was all i needed. i felt like i had discovered someone who appreciated me for me as i appreciated them for them. support each other’s dreams & healing.

damn. just to see that person is long gone & to stare in the eyes of someone you don’t know anymore. the person who cared to understand now cares less or not at all. often makes you wonder. but i will cherish what warmed my heart & eased my spirit as guidance with discernment so that i can love more & better.

many blessings to you all 💙

peace. happiness. love.

deja

currently as i sit…

so much has happened. like life is really happening. but today i’m in a better space. i had the pleasure of sharing some real emotions & my friend took the time to walk me through them. from personal experience & a place of love. it’s such a wonderful feeling to be loved by people. not necessarily in a romantic way. but in the way of genuine concern. someone rooting for you no matter what. but also providing an uncomfortable truth that one may not want to hear. my friends have always been so solid with me. even on my darkest days. they remind me of the work, growth, & beauty in who i’m becoming. they adapt with the changes i am making with myself. they never hold me to my former self. they accept the growth & evolution than wanting to hold me hostage to a space where i was not fully equipped to handle things how i handle them now. they allow me to freely be me. they love me for me. whether i’m an annoying ray of sunshine that they are happy to see. or when i am tornado in the severe thunderstorm. they never judge me for my bad days. they allow me time to process & accountable for the choices i made. nothing is forced. everything just naturally flows with them. & i am thankful & truly appreciative for that. they all balance me & it fills me up on the days where my cup is empty. so to all my friends, thank you & i love you.